I'm so glad you're here!
If you're still:
I can help.
Oh, I've been there too!
I cried when I brought my first baby home from the hospital.
Before discharge, the nurse directed me to change the baby's diaper and dress her. I hadn't cared for an infant since my teenage babysitting days, and I quickly realized I was out of my depth. I couldn't close the diaper properly. I couldn't even get the snaps to line up on her onesie. To make things worse, even though I'd studied all the breastfeeding books, nursing turned out to be nearly impossible for my daughter and me.
Nineteen months later, I gave birth to another little one, who had a completely different personality. And the older child didn't appreciate sharing attention with the new baby and made her displeasure known in numerous horrible ways. In the hopes of restoring peace to our household, I devoured a pile of parenting guidebooks, subscribed to magazines, and came away with a lot of conflicting information. I was confused. And tired!
I'd been fed a line that having children was the most rewarding thing in the world. Other mothers seemed to know what they were doing -- and enjoyed it. Often, I didn't enjoy it.
I tried my best, yet I always seemed to fall short.
Then, after my older child started school, she turned out not to be the kind of student who excels by sitting still and staring at a whiteboard. I went home from Parent/Teacher conferences sad and demoralized.
Oh yeah, I also wanted a life of my own. I really like to read books that have nothing to do with best childcare practices. I had other interests.
What was wrong with me?
Nothing at all, it turns out.
I soon discovered that a lot of women were as confused as stressed as I was.
I knew I wasn't alone when I discovered that another mother -- whose kids regularly showed up at the bus stop dressed for a magazine shoot -- searched a weekly circular for her wine coupon. Like so many women, she sipped herself into a better frame of mind after the kiddies went to bed.
(Nothing wrong at all with enjoying a glass or two -- I still do! But, full disclosure here: For a while, it became a coping mechanism for me, as it does for so many other women with children.)
Here's the thing: There are no perfect mothers. There are good mothers, however. Some of them work outside the home. Some of them don't. Some of them live in immaculately clean and beautifully decorated homes. Others are happy to leave the dishes in the sink if it means they can enjoy a quiet hour with a good book.
The one thing all good mothers have in common is that they care. They're conscientious. But when conscientiousness turns into guilt or resentment, things go bad not just for her, but for her partner -- and her entire family. (If you're starting to dislike your husband, I'm talking to you.)
The one thing I've learned over the years is that I cannot make good decisions from a point of guilt or resentment (resentment, in particular, always leads to decisions that bite me back in the end). And the feeling that once we become mothers we're no longer entitled to being women with our own needs, desires, and dreams anymore is a source of major resentment.
It seems everyone wants a piece of us, and everyone has an opinion on the way we do things.
IF REAL LIFE ISN'T MEASURING UP TO YOUR INSTAGRAM FEED, IT'S TIME TO RECLAIM A LIFE OF PEACE, CLARITY, CONFIDENCE, AND JOY -- THAT WILL INFECT YOUR WHOLE FAMILY.
If you'd like to find out if EFT/Tapping can help you release stress, clarify your very valid feelings, and regain confidence as a human being, be in touch for a complimentary consultation to discuss one-on-one coaching. We can meet from the convenience of your home or office via Zoom. Drop me a line at terry(a)terryhernon.com.
I can't wait to meet you.
PRAISE FOR TERRY
SHE GOT MARRIED
“A big thanks to you, Terry. I got married in October.”
ATHLETE WHO FEARED OPEN WATER COMPLETES TRIATHLON
" I wanted you to know that the EFT worked! I was able to swim one and half miles in the ocean with my wet suit, Thanks!"
THE RIGHT MAN CAME ALONG ... AND HE'S CRAZY ABOUT HER
"After 15 years of divorced life, attracting no-hopers, non-committers, drinkers, compulsive, unsuccessful men who needed looking after and generally sorting out, I used your system. I decided to shift my attention from men and my grown up children to me! I started taking care of myself more, I filled my life with fun and friends, I made sure I came first, I became choosy, free, successful and happy. I had a great time in that period while beginning to dare to believe I could be happily married to a loving, reliable, caring, successful, suitable, fun man. And then he DID come along! He is the most devoted and wonderful man who never lets me forget that he loves me. (One of YOUR suggested affirmations). And everything fits together for the whole family!
Please keep on telling your readers there IS someone for them. It seems to me that the key is to really believe we deserve to be loved. Make ourselves happy, fit, well, full of gratitude for what we already have, sort our own lives out, find work that we love, make great homes for ourselves. Then put out for a quality person to come and join us on our journey. Thanks.”
SHE'S IN A WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIP WITH A GREAT GUY
Kelly in New Jersey
"So, much like most women in America, I have a lot of questions when it comes to dating and love. In my quest to learn more about the inner workings of attraction and relationships, I came across Terry and her work. In reading her advice to others I immediately became intrigued and wanted to discover more. Over time I found that her perspective on common relationship issues and her stance towards loving yourself first before searching for love from any guy has really set my mind and heart straight when it comes to dating. As a result, I find myself in the midst of a wonderful relationship with a great guy. Through it all, questions do come up and Terry's objective viewpoint is what I still turn to for the non-drama filled solutions that keep things moving forward. If you are looking for love or find yourself questioning the guy in your life, I know her advice and suggestions will be just what you need. Thanks, Terry, for sharing the love!"
STOP WASTING TIME ON THE WRONG MEN
Melina, aged 40, Melbourne Austraila
"If you have a pattern of attracting men who continuously disappoint,Terry Hernon can change that. Terry’s practical wisdom always pinpoints the problem to offer the most sensible solution. She loves working with people who’ve had their hearts broken and are afraid they will never heal. You deserve a compassionate guide to navigate the dating journey. Work with Terry to unleash the fears holding you back, and become excited to start a new and loving relationship."
TAPPING HELPS HER ENERGY LEVEL
Randace, Boston, MA
"I am consulting downtown these days. I tap every day on my lunch break, and it gives me tremendous energy. I am forever grateful to you!!!!! I notice a real difference if I don’t tap."
CAN I HELP YOU?
I've helped ...
I offer 6- and 3-session packages, using a combination of common sense coaching and EFT/Tapping, an easy-to-learn technique that has been called "acupuncture without needles." My mission is to help you make the good changes you desire quickly and painlessly.
Sometimes goals elude us because the subconscious is silently but actively running a program that prevents changes we want to make. Once the subconscious accepts a new program, we get results we want without struggle or willpower!
Let's see if we're a good fit. Contact me at terry(at)terryhernon.com for a complimentary 20-minute phone or Skype consultation. I can't wait to meet you.
HOW TO ATTRACT AND MARRY THE MAN OF YOUR DREAMS IS NOW ON KINDLE
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ARE YOU FINDING MOTHERHOOD ISN'T WHAT IT'S CRACKED UP TO BE?
You are not alone.
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